If you or someone you know is going through a breakup then you know that there are a multitude of emotions that come with it. This is especially true if this person meant a lot to you. You could be feeling hurt, confused, angry, sad, happy, relieved, free any of the above really. You could be feeling any of these which is understandable and can be part of the process. I should know since I have been through a couple of my own, one of which is recent. We all need to let ourselves move forward in a healthy way while accepting what was lost.
First, we need to give ourselves the chance to grieve and acknowledge what was lost, the good and the bad. Ignoring the hurt will only postpone the pain and won’t make it go away. Accepting the loss of the potential future and the bond that was shared is an important step towards moving forward that shouldn’t be pushed aside. It will be over in due time but until then just take a deep breath and let your mind and heart move through this phase. Just take one foot in front of the other and see where it takes you.
Next, I recommend finding ways to be and stay energized to help you really feel alive again. Fun ways to stay active include dancing, bouncing at a trampoline park, engaging in a beloved sport or going for a run, whatever is right for you. You can also make sure you minimize the carbs to avoid the crash and burn comes with them. You can try to keep your body healthier by focusing on a nutritious diet so your body will feel ready to move forward. If you and your mind are going to go anywhere your body needs to be ready.
Try not to be too hard on yourself either. You may stary giving yourself a list of what ifs wondering about what could or could not have been done differently. Once we know that you broke up for the right reasons then you need to be kind to yourself (and your mind). Try to talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend. How about instead of self-pity you give yourself a pep talk.
Seeing them again would only bring on emotions that you don’t need and make things more complicated. Talking to them would only confuse things so try to avoid that if possible. The obvious thing is to stop checking up on them on social media, block them if you have to. Comparing your life to theirs would only make the hurt worse. If you want to tell them something, write it down and let it go. You need to eliminate the source of your pain for as long as possible. Once you’ve moved on, evaluate whether being friends is a good and realistic idea.
What is valuable during this process is having a great support system like family and friends to talk to about what you’re feeling and what you went through. Everyone should have one for moral support, advice, pep talks and honesty whenever you need it. Walking through challenges and everyday life alone can be depressing and more difficult. We need the right people to push us in the right direction with a refreshing dose of empathy along the way. They can also be our accountability buddies, helping us avoid bad decisions that could jeopardize our chances of moving forward. This is why we should choose the friends that we surround ourselves with wisely.
You should also remember why you broke up every time you consider going back to them. If the breakup was healthy and for the right reasons, then you shouldn’t second guess it. Instead, what happened should be learned from to know what should not be tolerated. We need to use our experiences to help us know what we want in a relationship and what we won’t accept. Reminding ourselves of the standards that we’ve set for our partner is what lets us know who is and is not right.
If time has passed since the breakup and you still feel like nothing has changed then therapy should be considered. Meeting with a counselor to discuss your challenge emotionally can help you heal in the right way to stay on the right track. We all need a little help sometimes and it is important that we get it. The right knowledge of what our progress should look like can be a great blessing. The right help can send us on the right direction.
Once you’ve gotten your life on track, you’re likely to feel like a weight has been removed from your shoulders. It will be easier to explore new opportunities and relationships once you’ve been released from this emotional baggage. That is all because you embraced the next right thing. Each ending leads to a new beginning which you get to create for yourself. God can give that to you since what he has planned for you is much better than what you left behind.
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